Most Americans don’t. It’s too expensive. There are a few reasons why it
becomes necessary:
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Most older people have very fixed opinions about how things should be
that they first formed in their youth when the world was different. Hey, the
world has changed! Trying to force your grown children or grandchildren to live
in a world that doesn’t exist anymore can be just annoying, or it can be
totally offensive. If the old folks can’t stop trying to run their adult
children’s lives, they are not likely to be fondly embraced. Keep in mind that
the world is changing much faster than it has in the past. Humans were never
evolved to adapt to change this fast - the majority of learning takes place in
childhood - it’s difficult to learn new ways of life after childhood. Older
people can become an intolerable burden on their adult children. Some older
people can have a very destructive influence on their grandchildren.
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The multigenerational family propagages “family games” down the
generations. Co-dependencies and enablements are taught to each new generation
of children. This is how abuse (sexual, physical, and emotional) is passed down
through the generations. Each new generation is taught to play a specific
“role” in the family games. Often the only way to break the patterns of family
games is to isolate the older game players away from the children.
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At some point, many older folks have severe health problems. When this
happens, children are faced with deciding whether it is better to place them in
a facility that can care for them and preserve their lives for a little longer,
or whether it is better to let them live with family and die a little sooner.
Americans have been trained by their society to prolong life, even if it means
prolonging suffering. We Americans are really cruel when it comes to suffering
instead of being allowed to die.
Refer: Tayoh Dey
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